Charles Brinamen, Psy.D.


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(415) 505-4048

Flood Building

870 Market Street, Suite 753

San Francisco, CA  94102

License #PSY17926

BART/Muni: Powell Street Station

Parking: Ellis/O’Farrell Garage

(enter Flood Building at 71 Ellis)

There is a lot of preparation and consideration that goes into establishing a family (whether through biology, surrogacy, fertility treatments, and adoption) and welcoming a little one (or sometimes older children) into your life. I have researched and written about the consideration of and transition to parenthood, particularly for gay and lesbian parents and other alternative family structures. I’m happy to think with you (and co-parent(s)) about the decision to parent, anticipate changes in your relationship(s), and establish both a plan and a communication base as you move forward in expanding a family. I can answer questions, help couples negotiate, and anticipate challenges and rewards.

Considering Parenthood & Adoption

These services may involve informal assessments, meetings with you (co-parents) and your child together and separately, advice and referrals, and some form of parent-child therapy.

  1. Parents’ Transitions

  2. Welcoming a child in your life can be an exciting, fulfilling experience for both parent(s) and child. There are also challenges. This is a huge shift for you and for your child. Even when things go well, navigating and building a new relationship can take work. We all have natural ambivalence to change. Support during this transition can help things go more smoothly no matter how a child comes into your life.

  3. Talking to Children about their journey to your family

  4. Helping a child understand how they came into your life can sometimes feel confusing: when do you start, how do you introduce it to your child, can they handle it developmentally. Help sorting this out and developing a response amenable among co-parent(s) can be a focus of our work.

  5. Understanding children who are struggling with a change in caregiver

  6. Many adoptive children of all ages have experienced separations, traumas, neglect, and a lack of attachment figures. Children with disruptions in attachment can be difficult to figure out. These early traumas often distort the natural signals children give to caregivers. Your new child may not be able to tell you what they need or they may actually ask for the opposite of what they need (ie. Pushing you away when what they really need is to be held.)

I can help you find new bridges to your child as you build a healthy relationship that’s enjoyable for both you and your child. Please see: Therapy Services: Children

Parenting & Adoption Support